Creating Healthy Habits in Love – How to create a solid base of affection.

Who doesn’t love a challenge? I know I do – anything is more fun when it’s turned into a game and this month I have a great one for all of you!

February is when most people celebrate – or cringe at – Valentines Day…bum bum bum.

While it is a day many feel we should show our loved ones how much we love them, it’s also become a giant marketing gimmick that can feel like the day is more about the presents than the actual love. In fact, I’ve never been one to celebrate V-day for that reason, who needs just one day? We need love everyday.

So I’ve come up with a different way to embrace February. I’ve decided to start a 28 Days of Affection Challenge, and I really want you to join me and my family!

Here’s how the challenge will work:

1. A new daily challenge will be posted right here every morning at 10 a.m. MST under the features section of the home page, as well as on my Facebook Page and Pinterest Board being created for this challenge. These little games and challenges will be simple and fun. For example, it could  “Hold your child’s hand for 5 minutes today,while sitting, reading or playing quietly together.” It could also be something a bit more wild like, “Wrap your arms around your spouse, hold them close enough to be able to whisper in their ear, and tell them about the first time you felt your knees go weak when you were with them. The first time they made your heart skip a beat.” 28 Days gives us all a lot of chances to connect with our loved ones on all different levels – so let’s do this!

2.. Everyone is encouraged to spread the word on this challenge and get other family members and friends involved. We want as many people as possible to get into the idea of showing and sharing REAL love every day. No price tags will be attached to any of the challenges.

3. There is no point number 3. This is it. It’s that simple of a challenge.

So why am I asking readers to partake in this challenge?

The reason is quite simple. As parents our lives get so busy that it’s too easy to forget to stop and just, love.

I’m 100% guilty of this.

I am not someone who stops to say, “I love you” before my kids head out the door all the time or even before I leave for work. I don’t naturally think of pulling my husband in for a kiss before he leaves for work in the mornings either.

I am not someone who gives those teddy-bear hugs to my kids and spouse all the time anymore as I did when we were first married or when the kids were little tiny toddler machines. It’s pretty natural to snuggle a baby throughout the day… but our older kids needs affection just as much.

I have become too ‘busy’ rushing between tasks, worrying about laundry or homework assignments that failed to get done – or checking status updates and memes. Too busy. Too tired. Too pulled in too many directions. Too caught up in the nonsense of online distractions.

I need to remind myself what it’s like to show my love for real with those that matter most to me. If this is my last 28 days on this planet. My last 28 days to let my kids and spouse know that they really are the centre of my world, my core, my heartbeat – how would I do that?

Twenty-eight days to form a new habit. A habit that will hopefully leave me and all of you who decide to play along with this challenge this month,  more in touch with showing real affection, love and attachment.

And while this is a fun game, it is one that’s also very important.

I know I am not the only mom or parent who forgets to shut-down the chaos every day for a few minutes to let my family know how much they mean to me.

I know I am not the only parent that goes to bed some nights feeling like an ass for forgetting to pack a special treat that day, or for snapping at her kids when all they really wanted was her REAL time. Time devoted for even just a few seconds completely to them.

I know I am not the only one who can can do better. Who wants to do better.

There are so many studies that can speak to how important it is for kids to grow up with a healthy sense of love, affection and attachment to their parents.

And yet, the more we seem to learn about how important these things are, the more we also seem to be distracted by schedules, activities and digital devices.

So while this 28 Days of Affection Challenge seemed like a great fit for the month of love, it really is about changing our habits as parents and finding ways to build the connection we have with our kids. The feel-good-squishy-heart connections.  And not just our kids, but to our spouses and friends and our parents.

We all need these connections to be healthy, happy and secure.

So will join my challenge this month?

Celebrate a month of learning how to create simple habits to foster positive signs of affection and love in all your relationships.

For the first set of challenges – click here!


13 Comments Add yours

  1. I love this! I shared it on my blog’s Facebook page and pinned it on Pinterest! I’m looking forward to following this all month! Thank you for sharing!

    1. Awe – thank you so much! I really appreciate the support and knowing that others are jumping on-board with it.

  2. I love this challenge…and I’ll start by sending YOU a virtual hug. But I’ll be partaking for sure. It’s cuddle tume for my home this month!!! Thanks.

    1. Awe – thank you lady!

  3. love this thank you for sharing this.

  4. mandypo says:

    This is so sweet. I love the idea behind this challenge and building it as a habit. The results would be so worth it.

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